6 June 2021
Moving Context
My husband and I have been thinking of moving (Day 120 – Moving or Renovating Dilemma), and so has my mother. A move for my mother is a more challenging decision than the one for me. Leigha, a friend of mine, who is in a similar family situation to me (mother, sister and father who has passed away), has her sister –Amy – living with their mother. This living arrangement and my mother’s big house and yard have prompted my husband and me to consider a similar living arrangement to Leigha’s sister’s.
From our society’s point of view, moving in with my mother will be challenging. After having so much independence, my mum and I have developed our ways of doing things. Plus, my mother and I appear to clash from an outsider’s perspective. As others see it, the clash isn’t so much of a challenge for my mother and me. We shrug it off. To us, it’s a normal mode of communication. However, this “clashing” can stress those not used to it, aka my husband.
If we buy a house together, whatever we look at buying needs to accommodate independent living areas. Ideally, the house would have two wings with a central kitchen (I think) or having her move in next door (preferred, maybe?). Anyway, it will require some consideration. Financial implications for my mother also need to be considered.
Apart from the daunting possibility for both my mother and us moving in together, my husband and I spent some lovely autumn’s day hours in the sun listening to an audiobook.
Disclaimer: names used in this article are not real names, and the personalities could be constructs of different people I know.
Today's Cards
The Cards - Analysis
Carryover Cards
Two cards carried over from yesterday; Stress moved from Feelings to the Now, and Beyond Illusion moved from Outcome to the Recent Past position.
Cross
Stress moving from Feelings to the Now shows Stress arising from my feelings state and become a reality. Today’s focus was on moving in with my mother; there’s Stress involved with moving in and not moving in with her.
No-thingness influences Stress meaning the potential surrounding the possibilities could be stressful, but for now, it’s the unknown that’s causing the Stress.
The Goal position is Consciousness, bringing to light the idea of sharing a house rather than keeping it in-house. 🏠
Fighting in the Distant Past is the underlying reason for the Stress. But Fighting is more than about the clashes my mother and I have; it can also be about Fighting myself on how best to support her.
Beyond Illusion moving from Outcome to Recent Past indicates a chrysalis has occurred. Sharing a house with my mother is a scary idea and obviously has been spoken about between my husband and me; discussions with my mother only took place today.
The Future Energy position has the card of Guilt. Guilt? I’m not sure how I can relate to this, but perhaps it’s feeling guilty about raising it, not speaking to my sister about it first. Or maybe about a whole heap of other things – after all, I had a partial Catholic upbringing, I can feel guilty about anything and everything!
Base
Feelings of rebellion alluded to in The Rebel card are more about going with the right thing to do (mentioning it), even if it doesn’t come to pass.
Others’ Views is that I’m The Miser. Is this about me wanting to retain my own space while still living with my mother? Is it about the type of house, or could The Miser card be translated to mean the “Selfishness” card?
Hopes & Fears is The Burden. Now the topic of house sharing has surfaced, my fear is it will create a burden; my hope is opening discussions will lift it.
Trust is in the Outcome position and suggests there is not much to be done for the moment but Trust.
References
- Osho, Osho Zen Tarot – The Transcendental Game of Zen, St Martin’s Press, ISBN 0-312-11733-7
- Day 120 – Moving or Renovating Dilemma
