5 June 2021
Friends Context
Old Friends
It was a pleasant surprise to get a phone call from Betty. Betty thanked me for her birthday wishes and was glad I reached out, and she hadn’t lost me as a friend. Betty then apologised for drinking while speaking on the phone back in January 2021 (Day 13). It was something I was worried about too. Thankfully, neither of us gave up on the friendship and said, “it’ll take more than that to destroy our friendship”. That’s what friends are for, right?
At this point, Betty advised she had given up drinking and making phone calls. Then she extended giving up drinking alcohol entirely. You see, Betty is worried about losing her memory now that she is older and had slowly noticed some aspects getting a lot more attention than others. The phone conversation ended when Audrey knocked on the door. I‘m glad the conversation happened.
New Friends
Audrey dropped by; she was visiting from another state with her boyfriend, Sven (by now, you know that I’m not using real names). I had heard a lot about Sven but hadn’t met him until today. Sven’s friends picked Audrey and him up from the airport, and on the way to the Sunshine Coast, Audrey insisted on visiting me.
This visit meant three people were visiting whom we’d never met, making for a tricky situation. You want to connect deeply with one person, but there are three unknowns, so the conversation is “small talk”. Audrey had given me the “heads up” to avoid specific discussion topics, namely politics. Sven was concerned we might judge him by his friends.
Judging people in the room with you when they are with their friends wouldn’t have me judging you by your friend’s behaviour. Unless the friend was rude, and you supported the rude. On the other hand, if we’d met the friends before we met Sven, it would’ve been a different story.
I sincerely hope to judge people as they are at the time of meeting them. Nobly I would like to say I reassess each time I encounter someone. I said, “I’d like to” – not perfect! Judgement is cumulative, averaged or both. If, for instance, you made a wrong first impression by being uproariously and rudely drunk and late, I met you sober, I might put it down as a one-off.
Suppose it was funny, kind and loving drunk that would offer up another interpretation. Nonetheless, I’d reserve my assessment of you until the next time we met. If there’s no next time, I’m likely to keep one of two images of you, and even then, the “rudeness” meter would have to be at max. It takes a lot to offend me.
First-time Friends
Audrey dropped by; she was visiting from another state with her boyfriend, Sven (by now, you know that I’m not using real names). I had heard a lot about Sven but hadn’t met him until today. Sven’s friends picked Audrey and him up from the airport, and on the way to the Sunshine Coast, Audrey insisted on visiting me.
This visit meant three people were visiting whom we’d never met, making for a tricky situation. You want to connect deeply with one person, but there are three unknowns, so the conversation is “small talk”. Audrey had given me the “heads up” to avoid specific discussion topics, namely politics. Sven was concerned we might judge him by his friends.
Judging people in the room with you when they are with their friends wouldn’t have me judging you by your friend’s behaviour. Unless the friend was rude, and you supported the rude. On the other hand, if we’d met the friends before we met Sven, it would’ve been a different story.
I sincerely hope to judge people as they are at the time of meeting them. Nobly I would like to say I reassess each time I encounter someone. I said, “I’d like to” – not perfect! Judgement is cumulative, averaged or both. If, for instance, you made a wrong first impression by being uproariously and rudely drunk and late, I met you sober, I might put it down as a one-off.
Suppose it was funny, kind and loving drunk that would offer up another interpretation. Nonetheless, I’d reserve my assessment of you until the next time we met. If there’s no next time, I’m likely to keep one of two images of you, and even then, the “rudeness” meter would have to be at max. It takes a lot to offend me.
Today's Cards
The Cards - Analysis
Carryover Cards
One card carried over from yesterday; Completion moved from the Goal to the Recent Past position.
Cross
Completion moves from the Goal to Recent Past, which indicates something set as a Goal to complete has happened.
Morality is in the Now influenced by Adventure. Morality is wanting and doing things correctly because the Adventure of meeting new people was happening.
A nostalgic longing to have a casual chat with Audrey set the Goal of Clinging to the Past card.
The Distant Past card has The Lovers and represents teamwork and mutually beneficially cooperation.
Completion in the Recent Past position is highlighting a couple of wind on the documentation side.
Hmmm. With all the new people, it was time to do the people version of what dog’s do (butt sniff) 😄. Okay, Comparison is in the Future Energy card; we all begin to compare ourselves to see if they or we measure
Base
Stress in the Feelings position, and it is not a surprise to see it there. Need I say more!
Others’ Views is that I was open, sharing and full of Abundance. It’s what you want to seek in a card when you’re hospitable.
Hopes & Fears has the Ice-olation card. It’s the fear of putting up a wall where people are afraid to open up. At the same time, I hope I haven’t used Ice-olation at all.
Finally, is the Beyond Illusion card in the last position. Beyond Illusion is about being on the verge of breaking through a barrier. The barrier might be long or short, depending upon the team. It’s all about balance.
References
- Osho, Osho Zen Tarot – The Transcendental Game of Zen, St Martin’s Press, ISBN 0-312-11733-7
